Have you ever been fired or left a job?‚ It is kind of like ending a bad relationship.‚ There is a lot of hurt, blame and anger left swirling around long after the relationship has been severed, even it it was all for the best.‚ Sometimes it is hard to look for a new job with so much residual emotion running around through your veins. ‚ Interviewers can often sense a chip on your shoulder which they can read as being a bit of an‚ “attitude” when really it is just the hurt inside you.‚ So how do you move on?‚ How do you shrug off the bad to reveal the good and positive YOU?‚ How can you open yourself up to new possibilities?
It is time for a little spring cleaning.
I love this advice from Billie Sucher, on CareerHub
“When working with clients who have lost a job, I invite them to write a ‘letting go’ letter (don’t send; don’t share) which captures with brutal truth and honesty what, if anything, in their life they need to let go.‚ Clients often ask for ideas of what that might be. While it can be any number of things, I offer a few suggestions: anger, hurt, blame, envy, jealousy, revenge, hate, hatred, hostility, old wounds, unrealistic expectations, outdated scripts/mantras, a bad attitude, fear…you get the idea.
So how about it, job seekers? What, if anything, do you need to dump, let go of, toss out, throw away and put in the trash once and for all this Spring 2011 to allow yourself a chance to move forward with a fresh, clean start for new growth and new opportunity?”
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis B. Smedes